Woman skips best friend’s wedding after negative comments about her body, she ghosts her day-of, only to reveal later her true reason: “You didn’t make me feel appreciated as a friend”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jan 12, 2025 3:00 PM EST

Weddings are meant to be a time of great joy, a celebration of love, and the union of two souls forever. Though weddings are meant to carry bliss and merriment, we all know that their convivial atmosphere can turn ugly in a split second. Maybe a family member gets in an argument, maybe someone cuts the cake too soon, maybe someone objects to your marriage like they do in the movies. Whatever the cause, we all know how fragile this day is. 

During weddings, it's important to have your best friends present and surrounding you. And speaking of friends being at your wedding, it's a day you won't want them to miss. There are caveats though; having your friend at your wedding is predicated on the mutual respect that should permeate through the relationship the whole time. If you disrespect your friend during the wedding planning, don't be surprised if they cancel on you. 

This brings us to the story below. In this story, the protagonist has been enduring offensive comments from her best friend during their dress shopping. The protagonist was set to be the maid of honor, but not after the harmful words she's had to hear.  

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    AITA for Telling My Best Friend the Truth About Why I Skipped Their Wedding?

    "She made other small digs about my appearance"
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    So here's the deal: my best friend (30F), let's call her Anna, recently got married. We've been super close since college, and I (31F) was thrilled when she asked me to be her maid of honor. I helped her plan the wedding, threw her a bachelorette party, and even handled some last-minute vendor drama.
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    Then came the dress fitting. The bridesmaid dresses Anna picked were not great for my body type (I'm plus-size), but I didn't say anything because it was her day. However, during the fitting, Anna made a comment like, "Well, at least you're in the back for most of the photos!" Everyone laughed, but I felt humiliated.
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  • There's nothing meaner, crueler, or pettier than knocking someone down for their body. No relationship should be about their body, and if there's cause for concern then it can still be told in a nice way. It seems like the poster's friend isn't a very good friend. 

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    Later, I told her privately that her comment hurt my feelings. Instead of apologizing, she said, "I didn't mean it like that, but you know the dress wasn't made for... curvier girls. I figured you'd get that."
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    I didn't push it, but I started to feel weird about the whole wedding. Over the next few weeks, she made other small digs about my appearance, like joking about me needing "extra fabric" for alterations. I decided to step back emotionally, but I didn't want to ruin her day, so I planned to s k it up.
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    The night before the wedding, Anna called and asked if I could step aside during the bouquet toss because she wanted "all eyes on the bridesmaids,” implying I would stand out in a bad way. That was the final straw for me. I told her I wasn't feeling well and didn't attend the wedding.
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    When Anna texted afterward asking why I really missed the wedding, I told her the truth: her comments made me feel like she didn't value me as a friend, and I couldn't face being there. She blew up, saying I ruined her day, made it all about me, and embarrassed her in front of everyone by ghosting her wedding.
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    Our mutual friends are split- some think I should've just gone and dealt with it for one day, while others think Anna crossed a line. So, AITA for skipping my best friend's wedding and telling her the real reason why?
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    mustang19671... You should have left after the dress fitting. I'm Not trying to be mean but sounds like she kept you as a friend because she thought she looked better when you are together. She
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    has done nothing at this point to prove you are her friend and any friend who blames you should be blocked and go NC with
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    Srvntgrrl_789 NTA. Anna is NOT your friend, and is every bad word I won't put into in this post. She gaslit you for weeks up until the wedding, probably thinking you'd be okay with
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  • What would you do? Would you cancel on your friend, or go to her wedding? 

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    her ab e as that was supposed to be part of the MOH role... news flash, it's not. You skipped the wedding because 1) you have self- respect, 2) I believe you also wanted to skip the drama she may have caused.
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    I'm sorry she treated you so abysmally, but I'm the long. run, you're better off not having a friend like that in your life.
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    clearheaded01 ΝΤΑ What a Block and move on.
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    RevolutionaryCow... NTA. I'm surprised you hung in that long. This is not a friend. When I got married someone commented my bridesmaids certainly made me standout. I was petite as was a bridesmaid. The other 3 were bigger, I don't know
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    anyone who 50+ years ago would have picked bridesmaids by size. These were my friends. Lose her.
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    Difficult-Moose45... She is not a "friend." I am plus sized too. I don't expect everyone to like it and if I somehow "ruin" the pictures, do not include me from the beginning at all.
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    I am super impressed you did not attend the wedding AND stood up to her after. Now that the friends are "split," you know who your true friends are.
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    No-Shock-2055 NTA. Anna, however, is a massive a hole. That mean girl crop just isn't cool. Good for you for skipping it. I hope you can find some better, classier friends because your girl Anna Banana is trash.
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    Grellt ΝΤΑ You sound like a great friend. Anna sounds de din the head.
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    SonOfSchrute Anyone who thinks she was in the right isn't really a mutual friend. Cut those people out of your orbit. NTA
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    57_Eucalyptusbrea... If your absence ruined her wedding then the even5 was about you? It's her day I'm sure it was fine. You didn't ruin anything.
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